your.move: the relationship, now with instructions

How it works

The whole game, and yes, he can follow it.

You ask for one specific thing. He does it. A treat opens. Then he asks you. It has fewer steps than the grill he insists is far too complicated for you to operate.

You ask for the exact thing.

Pick a card from hundreds in the deck, or write your own, and send it. He gets the move, not the mood. No hinting, no managing, no asking twice.

You seal a treat to it.

Every ask carries a reward you choose for him. It stays sealed until the thing is done. He can see it. He can't open it yet. Go on, try him:

Sealed until he delivers

Unlocked. That feeling is the game.

He delivers. It opens. Your turn.

He plays the move, the treat unlocks on his side, and you both feel it land. Then he sends a card to you, and you get to be the one who earns something.

Start your first ask for free Takes two minutes. He gets his own version of the app.

The cards

Four cards. One game you both win.

Every move you send is one of these four. People expect a fifth, hidden, more complicated one. There isn't a fifth.

The ask

Task

The specific thing you want, written down. The version where he infers it from your tone is being discontinued, citing a complete lack of results.

The reward

Treat

What he unlocks by actually doing it. You pick it, so for once the reward is priced by the person who knows what it's worth.

The question

Spark

A question with no task attached. For starting something real without him assuming he's just been handed a project.

The power move

Wildcard

A bold claim either of you can just play. No build-up, no asking the room, no permission slip. You call it, it's called, and the other one honors it — that part isn't a discussion.

* One a year, each. He will try to argue the date quietly resets. It does not reset.

Privacy

Say the boldest thing you've ever typed. It's safer here than in his group chat.

Because nobody, including us, can read a word of it.

Nobody reads it. Not even us.

Every message, ask and treat is scrambled on your phone before it leaves. We store the scrambled version, which we cannot open. We know this, because the first thing engineers try is opening it.

No ads. No trackers. Nothing sold.

No ads, no trackers, no analytics taking notes at the back of the room. We don't sell your data, which is convenient, because we can't read it to begin with.

Delete it all in one tap.

Delete your account and it's gone within 30 days. No ghost copy in a drawer, no email arriving next spring to say it missed you.

Get the app

Free to start. Set up before the kettle's done.

Download your.move and send your first ask tonight. He gets his own version of the app, made for his side of the game.

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Things you might want to know.

Wait, who gets the treat?

He does. You attach it to your ask, and it unlocks for him when he does the thing. The treat is what you're giving, which is exactly why it works.

Isn't this just me managing him again?

The opposite. You stop being the nag and the narrator. The card is the ask — he responds to that, not to a mood you have to perform.

Is this a chore app?

No. Chore apps make you feel guilty. This one makes him show up specifically. There is a difference.

Do we both need the app?

Yes. It's a two-player game. One of you sends, the other plays. You invite him with one link from inside the app — he gets his own version, built for his side.

Will it feel transactional?

Only if you write it that way. The cards are dry, observed, sometimes funny. The point is to make small acts visible — not to keep score.

What does it cost?

Free to start. If we add paid plans later, you'll see the price in the app before you pay anything.